If You Got Fired

coping with job loss stress

One, who’s got fired due to economic collapse, has two ways.

I Either they eventually find another job or another sector of employment. Sometimes it may even turn to be a good bargain.

II Either after losing their job, they lose what actually provides their existence: emotional stability, peace, sleep, harmonious relationships with family and others. The latter will cause significant stress level growth.

It is likely that in order to cope with stress, a person may develop or deepen chemical addictions (alcohol, drug, food dependence) that will destroy his health and other resources. In its turn, it will increase stress growth again. All addictions cause short-term sedation (soothing, distracting), but increase the stress level in general and reduce resistance to stress (due to the resources destruction).

Long-term stress is a big pump for draining your energy.

A person who is unable to cope with a small stress on time may sink deeper and deeper in stress, and then his resources will shed like cut spruce needles.

That’s why people say: “misfortunes never come single” or “disasters come treading on each other’s heels”.

Misfortune does come alone, there’s no necessity in expecting other evils, but then it is important to prevent stress of getting fired from creating that chain of changes in psychological and energy state. It is important to resist stress and cope with it, then no new troubles will happen, but the trouble that has already occurred will be eliminated.

Here’s an important thing. Any normal person who was fired goes through anxiety. Anxiety can be short and mild, mind may quickly cope with stress, but that doesn’t happen all the time. For that to become true, one has to have other options to make living and there have to be no any acute financial problems (rent, mortgage, dependents, expensive health treatment, etc). If no earning options are available, but the problems do exist, one will not get away with a short anxiety period.

In this case, it is more probable that they will get something similar to a post-stress disorder. While a real post-stress disorder is rather a severe diagnosis (it happens after wars, violence, bereavement), and requires therapy, but something similar to a post-stress disorder often happens in milder forms and nearly always occurs in cases when stress is not eliminated quickly and mental tone is not recovered.

Kent A. Kiehl, Ph.D., studied psychopaths in prisons for dangerous criminals (Dr. Robert Hare’s student, the author of a famous book “Without Conscience”) and provided interesting data on post-stress disorder in his book “The Psyhopath Whisperer”.

Brain MRI of people with PTSD shows kind of a reverse to the psychopathic brain image. While psychopaths have no emotional reaction to important stimuli (risks) and are fearless, apathetic, a “terror” is a good word for that, people with PTSD exhibit P300 (P3) ERP – event related potential. That is, if psychopaths are dead to all feelings of danger, people after stress experience are overly vexatious and sensitive to the ordinary events and see danger where there is none.

P300 records increase when people get stuck in stress. If stress is not stopped swiftly enough and there is no adaptation to the situation, a person will be wrecked. Their reaction towards everything happening to them will be sharp and inadequate, and they will not be able to make the right decision in any situation. Do you acknowledge how significant it is to calm down?

Many people will capture themselves in stress, thinking that it is important not to calm down but “solve the problem”. But usually there is enough time to solve the problem, while the cerebration disrupts in stress very quickly. Every hour is important for frame of mind safety.

That’s why before everything else it is important to get rid of the fear.

Just “do not be afraid!” It only feels like causes for the fear are objectively reasonable. Look, psychopaths, with the highest score on a scale of psychopathy, have no fear at all. Even if you hold a pistol to psychopath’s head, they will laugh. Police actions cheer psychopath, and the threat of imprisonment and the death penalty do not cause any concern. This psychopath may be mentally safe, that is, they are not a madman in the usual meaning of the word, even an intelligent man sometimes. That’s only their mind that almost does not react to emotions. Psychopath’s paralimbic system suffers grey matter and circulatory insufficiency.

Now think about yourself. At the moment, you are on the other part of the scale. You are quaking with fright, feeling of guilt and outstanding obligations (to family, for example). Your paralimibic system is burning brightly, and you are as inadequate as a psychopath right now. Just a different way. A contrary way, but also inadequate. They do not respond with the normal emotions, and your reaction is excessive. You are stuck in stress.

Calm down, restore your balance, day regimen, indoors or outdoors exercises, and it will save you and open the reserve forces, which will help to solve the problem. Do not smash yourself, otherwise instead of one problem you will soon have to solve many problems! And much more complex ones.

Don’t promise yourself, “First I solve the problem and then calm down.”

It’s not a sure thing that you’d be able to solve it if your state is close to an anxiety disorder. First recover and find a foothold within yourself, calm down. Then it will be easier to solve the problem.

I will provide simple but useful formulas to relieve the state of obsessive anxiety.

relieving stress if lost your jobOne formula is ancient but still relevant. Since ancient times till the end of the XIXth century, anxiety disorders were mainly treated with baths.

20 minutes in the 95 F degrees (35 degrees Celcium) water with cool (not icy!) application over the forehead. This helps to reduce the blood circulation in the frontal and temporal lobes and calm down. You may add sea salt into the water (2.2 lb or 1 kilo per tub, no less), and that will even increase the procedure effect.

Also, patients with anxiety disorders (including post-stress) were effectively treated with daily dousing, but habituation to the lowering of the temperature has to be very gradual.

If you go to a gym with a hammam, a hot room + cool water dousing relieve stress. But it is important to pour cool water exactly over your head. You need to reduce the blood circulation in the temporal part of your head, literally “cool your head”, after you’ve warmed your body well enough. This gives a strong, purely physiological effect of relieving anxiety, stress and fear. Therapeutic as well as phylactic.

The second formula is modern and relates to the training of emotional and cognitive switch. In order to control your stress you need to create a switch in your brain (lots of things can be created in brain).

It is important to get not only distracted, especially by something of an ambiguous pleasure (drinking and adulterous relationship), what instinctively is used by many people in stress, especially males (no, this is a temporary effect, and then it often becomes worse), but to consciously track this switching. It is important to detect the very moment of switching from emotions to intellect, and then very the switch will work on itself very soon.

Professor Emily Holmes, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, offered to train the switch (for obsessive-compulsive patients but healthy people, obsessed with anxiety after the stress may also benefit from that) with Tetris game. One has to think hard about their problem for ten minutes, and then to play Tetris for ten minutes. Interesting results were achieved. Obsessive fears decreased significantly during the week after only one such a training.

This experiment proves that if you consciously (!)  switch from emotional distress to some mental activities that require high attention concentration, don’t wander in your thoughts on the troubling issue all the time, but detect this moment of switching, then your total anxiety decreases, temporal and frontal lobes begin to work more adequately. Above all, you form the switch and your brain starts to use it on itself. If this is a game and not some kind of useful learning activity, it is important not to immerse deeply, otherwise the useful effect of a workout is lost. 10 to 15 minutes is enough.

Amygdaloid nucleus resides in the temporal lobes of the brain, and is responsible for priority of emotions. In PTSD cases, it is responsible for the so-called triggers. Any glimpse of trauma and panic breaks out. Some similar processes may develop in amygdaloid nucleus of people who got a lot of stress from their dismissal. Any reference on memories of being dismissed, and immediately they are captured with fear and resentment. This can be very discouraging when looking for a new job. One may want to escape “at the bottom of the glass,” or elsewhere.

Auto-training helps to modify amygdaloid nucleus undesired operation. The most simple auto-training: lay down (preferably on the floor), relax, play quiet classical music and repeat to yourself “I am calm, my hands are relaxed, my feet are relaxed, my heart is beating evenly, my brain works quietly,” and the like for 5 to 15 minutes.

Well, vitamin C significantly reduces cortisol, the stress hormone. Thus, if you eat a very small amount of fruits and raw vegetables, you may consider to drink soluble vitamin C (but not on an empty stomach, it is acid). If stress is specifically high, the dose can be from 1 g to 3 g. A regular dose is 0.5 g, if there are no contraindications.

The destructive power of stress must not be underestimated. This psychological illiteracy can turn to cost quite expensive.

Restore your emotional stability at least partly, and then it will be easier to solve any problem.

Source: (translated from Russian)

Original author: Marina Komissarova


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